Much discussion has been taking place today in regards to a Daily Mail story published about the Beckhams and their daughters use of a dummy at the age of 4.
Now I'm going to completely ignore the obvious issue here in terms of the Daily Mail being a NEWSPAPER and therefore having a duty to report NEWS, which this clearly isn't. Instead, I'm going to focus on the story itself and why anyone would feel the need to discuss this or even give a rats ass.
So it would appear that The Daily Mail are now employing Sanctimummys to write their "show business" news. Because this article reeeeekkks of Mum Wars. There's some lovely little sections in it that state the advice given on the NHS website in regards to dummies, and a few snippets of information here and there from some "parenting experts," but let's face it Daily Mail. You are just being a bitch.
Aside from factual information in regards to the effects of dummy use lets have a look at what else the "parenting experts" have to say within the article.
Clare Byam-Cook, a former midwife, stated "I can't believe she is still using a dummy!"
And parenting expert Sue Atkins said "It is an easy option for parents, because if you give them a dummy they shut up and are quiet. It's the same as giving them an iPad really."
Whoah Sue! Low blow! Leave the iPad out of this! Is this the type of thing you say to parents when they come to you for your expert advice? Jesus! You're a maniac.
I'm sure that the Beckhams are fully aware of the possible consequences of their daughter having a dummy at the age of 4. They don't need the likes of Clare & Sue sticking their two pence worth in stating their opinions! Just the same as most parents don't need anyone sticking their oar in! What is it with people having to comment, judge and bitch about parenting techniques!
I can't help but feel sorry for the Beckhams in this situation. It's bad enough meeting the likes of Clare and Sue at baby groups, the park, or anywhere else where they happen to materialise with their snarky comments and rolling eyes, but imagine having it slapped all over a newspaper and the internet!
If you truly were parenting experts, Clare & Sue, then I'm sure you would have a smidgen of understanding that we are parents, not super human beings! Sometimes we actually want our kids to shut up and keep quiet! Sometimes we are exhausted! Sometimes we employ techniques that may perhaps be frowned upon like, dare I say it, dummies and iPads, just to keep sane!!
Clare does go on to say how she feels that "David and Victoria seem wonderful parents" (Ahhhh how kind of you to say that Clare! You're Not an ass hat at all!) "but, like it or not, they are role models and lots of people will see this and think that having a dummy at this age is normal when it is not."
Well actually, no Clare. I'm pretty sure that adults are capable of making their own parenting decisions without the need to look up what the Beckhams are doing. But yes Clare you are right, these people are role models. But that doesn't mean they have to be perfect.
There will be a mum out there right now who has faced this sanctimonious bullshit and is currently doubting her abilities as a mother (as we all do!)
It may be a breath of fresh air to see that a celebrity mum is going through the exact thing as them! Using techniques to keep their child content for a little bit of peace and quiet! Because guess what? It's ok to do that!
And whilst you are discussing "normal behaviour" do you know what really isn't normal? Feeling the need to judge, point out and bitch about other peoples parenting styles. It isn't "normal" to make another parent feel like they aren't good enough.
It's not the Beckhams who aren't "normal" here. It's you! The Daily Mail! And Clare and bloody Sue!
So Beckhams, I salute you! Thankyou for allowing us regular folk to see that we're not the only ones who get judged and stifled by all this "perfect mummy" crap! Thankyou for allowing us to see that you too employ strategies that are sometimes "not perfect" but are right for you.
Daily Mail, you should be ashamed of yourself!
Here is a picture of my son on his iPad as I wrote this.